Empathy can protect us from taking „No“ personally: being hurt, staying with this
misunderstanding between our need for acceptance and another person’s need.
Example
I would like to go to the movie with you tonight. I don‘t want. Are you tired and want to rest this evening at home? Yes!
Execise in peers, when you hear „no“ from someone in you family or work place:
- Remember situation from your life and say what you said, asked for “….“
- They said? “NO“, or „I dont want“
- Your empathic guess:
a. Are you feeling…?;
b. Are you needing…?
c. Are you requesting (fill in a likely request of the other person), because you have a need for …? - Sharing in the group…