Exercise – What causes our feelings?

Please circle the number in front of each statement where the speaker is acknowledging responsibility for his or her feelings.

1. “You irritate me when you leave company documents on the conference room floor.”

2. “I feel angry when you say that, because I am wanting respect and I hear your words as an insult.”

3. “I feel frustrated when you come late.”

4. “I’m sad that you won’t be coming for dinner because I was hoping we could spend the evening together.”

5. “I feel disappointed because you said you would do it and you didn’t.”

6. “I’m discouraged because I would have liked to have progressed further in my work by now.”

7. “When people joke about Jews, I feel hurt.”

8. “I feel happy that you received that award, because my need for growing and developing is met.”

9. “I feel scared when you raise your voice, because I need a safe environment.”

10. “I am grateful that you offered me a ride because I was needing to get home before my children arrive.”